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  • Writer's pictureAphrodite Beidler

Body Issues

When You Don't Like How Your Body Looks




Body dysmorphia is a condition that affects millions of people around the world. It is characterized by an extreme dissatisfaction with some aspect of one's body and can lead to intense feelings of shame and guilt.


Acne, hair issues, skin rushes, forehead, nose, eye shape, knees, legs, hands that may look unpleasant to the owner create a lot of emotional pain. Often times individuals struggling with body image dysmorphia will strive to change their look, but never feel content with their appearance.


In this blog post, we will discuss how to love your body when you are not the shape or size you think is beautiful and will provide tips on how to practice body care and gain a healthier body image.


Defining Body Image


Body image is how you view and think about your own body. It involves the way you feel when you look in the mirror, how you think others see you, and how much of an effect your body has on your life.


People who struggle with body image often have a very negative inner critic, punishing themselves for not looking a certain way or feeling like they should be different from they are. They may avoid certain activities because of their negative body image, such as going to the beach or wearing clothing that shows their body shape.


People who struggle with body image may also gain more weight than they would like, leading to further issues. Body care is a key component in learning to accept yourself and loving your body regardless of shape or size. Taking care of your body can help reduce weight gain, body issues, and negative body image.


· How do you see yourself?

· How do you think others see you?

· Do you have an inner critic?

· What does your inner critic say about your body?


Why Our Bodies Change


Body image is particularly complex and gender identity can intensify emotions around body image. As we transition through different stages of life, our bodies change in size, shape, and form. Puberty is a difficult time as these body changes occur and can lead to feelings of embarrassment or self-consciousness. These changes are completely natural and should not be punished or discouraged. Instead, we must learn to embrace them and focus on body care to support our journey.


Weight gain is a common issue during puberty that can lead to body issues and body dysmorphia. With the right guidance, however, we can use this time to accept the changes that our bodies go through and appreciate the new shape and size we have attained. Through proper nutrition and exercise, we can enjoy the benefits of weight gain while learning how to be confident in our own skin. We must also remember that body image is more than just weight gain and take the time to practice self-care and show our bodies love despite what society may tell us.


On a scale of 0-10 (0=no problems) how would you rate the following:


· Is there one body part that you fixate on negatively?

· Who first pointed it out?

· What is your best feature?


Dealing with Negative Thoughts


It is difficult to come to terms with body image issues, especially when it is difficult to differentiate between our own thoughts and those we have internalized from others.


Our environment has a major impact on the way we perceive ourselves, often absorbing the projections of others for how we should look. This can lead to weight gain, body issues, and body dysmorphia. It is important to take time to recognize our negative thoughts and ask ourselves where they are coming from.


Are they our own unique thoughts or have we internalized them from people in our immediate family or society at large? If they are not ours, then we can actively work to release them and replace them with positive affirmations of self-love and body care.


· Who in your family was your biggest critic?

· Have you internalized other people’s criticisms?

· How would your life be different if others had been supportive?

· Can you use positive self-talk to support yourself especially when you feel bad?


A man enjoying a day at the spa.
Self-care is invaluable!

Learning to Accept Your Body


Accepting your body can be a difficult task, especially when you’re bombarded with unrealistic body standards every day. You may feel like you’ll never measure up or gain the confidence to love your body as it is. But with the right mindset and dedication, you can learn to accept and embrace your body despite any weight gain or body issues that you might have.


The first step to loving your body is by engaging in proper body care. Take time to nourish your body with healthy, nutritious meals and get regular exercise. Not only will this help promote physical health it will also improve your mental well-being. Additionally, dress your body in stylish outfits that make you feel good about yourself and express your personality.


It's important to avoid activities and substances that could be damaging to your physical health. Some examples include smoking cigarettes, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol, and using drugs. Even though these habits might make you feel better in the short term, they will hurt your long-term well-being.


Finally, celebrate your body in other ways too. Dancing, walking, playing sports, hiking, and swimming are all great ways to get active while also having fun. Celebrate milestones like the first anniversary of being smoke-free or the completion of a 5K run. These accomplishments will give you a sense of pride and boost your confidence.


By following these simple steps, you can start to accept and love your body no matter what shape or size it is. With proper body care, avoiding destructive habits, and celebrating yourself - you'll soon be on your way to feeling more confident and loving the skin you're in!


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